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- Karolien Koolhof is a coach voor introverts and gifted individuals
- Author of the book Introvert Leadership
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Do you notice a strong need for approval from others within yourself? Do you often think about how others see and judge you? This may be related to a deep desire to be seen for who you truly are. But how do you achieve that?
Albert Pesso, a pioneer in psychotherapy, emphasized the importance of the 'place' in an individual's life. The place represents the experience of truly mattering, being recognized, and appreciated for who you are. This certainly applies to introverts as well, who often have a more subtle presence.
Pesso suggests that fulfilling the need for a place has a profound effect on our mental and emotional well-being. For introverts, it can sometimes be a challenge to feel seen in a world that often prefers extroverted qualities.
Now, how do you determine if you have received enough 'place'? Self-reflection is crucial in this regard. Take regular time to evaluate how you feel in different situations and relationships. Pay attention to signals such as inner peace, satisfaction, and a sense of authenticity. Do you feel free to express yourself without fear of rejection?
On the other hand, if you find that you frequently doubt your own worth, often compare yourself to others, or feel like you're constantly playing a role in social situations, this may indicate that your need for a place is not fully being met. Recognizing these signals is the first step towards change.
I'd like to offer you a few practical tips to further work on this:
It is important to be patient in this process and take small steps that lead to a greater sense of place and recognition. As an introvert, you are allowed to take up space and be seen for who you truly are. Be kind to yourself and remind yourself regularly that your unique contribution is valuable. The rest will follow naturally.
Would you like to talk more about this? Feel free to contact me anytime.