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It's a challenge for many of the people I coach: dealing with dominant individuals. How do you ensure you're not being overshadowed? And how do you still assert yourself? Here are a few tips.
For introverts, dominance from others can be overwhelming. Introverts need space to calmly think and respond, but dominant people can sometimes take over that space and dominate the conversation.
Additionally, introverts dislike conflicts as they lead to overstimulation. Avoiding confrontation and maintaining harmony can sometimes be more important than defending your own viewpoints. This can lead to feeling overshadowed by others.
Lastly, there's the aspect of time. Introverts prefer taking time to formulate their thoughts before speaking. This may clash with the fast and assertive communication style of dominant people, making introverts feel like they can't contribute in a way that feels natural to them.
However, with the right approach, you can certainly build a relationship with even the most dominant types. Here are a few tips:
Stand firm
Dominant individuals respect those who are steadfast and confident. Stand by your opinions and don't be afraid to express them, even if they contradict the dominant person's views.
Pay attention to your body language as well. Stand tall, make eye contact, and speak with a clear voice. This exudes confidence and commands respect.
Be clear
Communicate openly and honestly about your needs, boundaries, and viewpoints. Don't be afraid to make yourself heard, but remain respectful.
Use "I" statements to convey your viewpoints. For example: "I understand your perspective, but I have a different opinion."
Stay calm
Remain calm, even if the situation becomes tense. Take deep breaths and take a moment to control your emotions before responding.
Try to show empathy and see the situation from the dominant person's perspective. This can help keep emotions in check and facilitate a more pleasant conversation.
Find common ground
Look for shared interests and goals. This can form a basis for collaboration and understanding, even in the face of disagreements.
Actively listen to the viewpoints of the dominant person and try to find something common to build upon.
Set boundaries
Be clear about what you do and do not accept. Set boundaries in a respectful manner and be firm in enforcing them.
Learn to say "no" when necessary. It's important to stand up for yourself and protect your own well-being, even if it goes against others' wishes.
In my coaching program "The Power of Introversion" we address how to deal with dominant individuals. Would you like to discuss this further? Feel free to contact me.
