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Last week, I saw a post here on LinkedIn from a mother of an introverted, sensitive child. Her story deeply resonated with me because it was so relatable. She described how her child is often misunderstood by teachers, leading to frustration and confusion. Unfortunately, this is a common issue. So, how can parents and teachers better understand and support these children?
I had to be careful not to get "lost in the shuffle." There was even a suggestion that I should switch to a different school track because my teacher doubted whether I would fit in at the academic level I was pursuing. These are two examples of the prejudices I faced as an (also sensitive) introvert during my school years. Thankfully, neither of these predictions came true. The quiet child eventually became a harmonious, yet still quiet, adult.
Introverted children are often quiet and withdrawn, and they may seem less active in group activities. This can be mistakenly seen by teachers as shyness, lack of interest, or even a learning problem. However, it’s important to understand that introverted children learn and communicate in different ways.
Common Misunderstandings
There are several misunderstandings about introverted children. For example, shyness is often confused with introversion. While shyness is a fear of social situations, introversion is a preference for quiet, less stimulating environments. Not every introverted student is shy; they simply have different preferences and energy sources.
Another common misunderstanding is that a lack of participation in class is seen as disinterest or inability. Introverted children may raise their hands less often or participate less in group discussions, but this doesn’t mean they aren’t paying attention or don’t understand what is being discussed. They often absorb information in a deep way and need time to formulate their thoughts before sharing them.
Additionally, introverted children often have a strong need for rest after a busy school day. This is sometimes seen as antisocial or unfriendly, but it’s actually a form of self-care. Introverted children recharge by spending time alone, which helps them regain balance after a lot of social interaction.
Tips for Parents to Improve the School Experience
Parents can play a crucial role in fostering understanding for their introverted child. A good start is to communicate openly and clearly with the teacher. Explain what introversion is and how it manifests in your child. Make sure the teacher understands that being quiet is not the same as being disengaged.
Practical adjustments in the classroom can also make a big difference. For instance, ask if the teacher can include quiet times where children can work or read individually. This helps introverted children to concentrate better. Working in smaller groups can also be beneficial, as introverted children often feel more comfortable and are more productive in a smaller setting. Encourage the teacher to use various methods of participation, such as written or digital contributions, instead of only oral participation in class. This can also be valuable for neurodivergent children.
At home, you can support your introverted child by providing a space where they can retreat and recharge after school. Encourage your child to express their thoughts and feelings in their own way, such as through drawing, writing, or making music. Ensure there is a balance between social activities and quiet time. It’s important for your child to learn to recognize and respect their own boundaries.
Creating Understanding
The story of the mother on LinkedIn highlights a common issue, but the overwhelming response to her post also shows the possibility for change. By looking at a child with an open, unbiased perspective and responding to their needs, we can ensure that introverted children can truly thrive.
